When the topic of dating and relationships ever come up in a conversation I make it a point to let everyone I do not date. Nine times out of ten the reaction is the same; a cross between “are you okay in the head?” and, “I feel so sorry for you.” Yeah, I know, I’m a kook, aren’t I? Perhaps by your standards. But I am here to say that I answer to a higher standard.
To the basic, core, and pure truth as to why I do not date is simple; I am strongly suggested by parental authority not to date. Naturally, this would be taken as a negative tone. We don’t like having people tell us what to do, or how to do things, and that we must live as “independent beings” regardless of whose house you are in. But in all truth, I thank God for this authority (Yet again, do I appear a kook?). Because of this strong arm holding me back I am able to see all the messed up stuff teenage dating can create. And trust me, I’ve seen my share of messed up stuff.
From the core parental authority stems my own opinion that agrees with the core opinion based upon my own observances. I will make it clear that I do not support teenage dating not because daddy said so. I do not support it because I know it, heard it, felt it, seen it. And it’s ugly. It has the ability to create spiritual blindness and sensitivity to God because attention is turned from “I want to please God” to “I want to please my girlfriend.” It has the ability to destroy friendships, turning a seemingly age-long friendship into a bitter and awkward struggle in an extremely short time all because they decided to “take it to the next level.” It has the ability to cut holes of hurt whether through a break-up, sexual problems (a whole other area I could rampage on about), and the blocking out of other friends. The list is endless and I could go on for a very long time.
Am I against dating all together? No, just teenage dating. I think it is important for young, middle or even late aged adults to date in order to find a spouse. And there it is, a major factor in the “dur-ness” of teenage dating; finding a mate. I’ll ask, why does one date? To the soul and core of it, why do people date? To find a wife or husband. Dur. My logic; why date to find a wife (husband) if I haven’t even started my life yet? Are you nuts, I’m not ready to get married.
Now, to the major, the big dog, the big cheese reason why I do not date…*drum role*… I want to focus on God. There, I said it. It’s out in the open. You know now that I value my salvation and relationship with God above anything else, especially dating.
Will I ever date? Yes, I will. Will I find the girl God has set for me? You bet. Have I met her yet? I do not have a clue. Faith, here, is the key. To keep my eyes on him and trust him daily will lead me to her one of these days.